Sunny, Whether you say something or not, if she opts to run away, she will. She's using all of her "tools" to keep you hoping and doing what she wants because she knows that you'll do everything humanly possible to keep her happy and in the home.
You need to think about when is a good time to just sit down and have a nice chat. I would start out discussing the check order. I would thank her for ordering checks, but why did she order so many and then point out that you aren't using many checks these days because of online bill payment. Be sure to acknowledge that she order them and thank her for it.
As for her family. If they are staying at a hotel, that's one thing, but I would tell her that as much as you love to spend time w/your son, you thought it would nice if your family had some time w/him while they were in town. You'll have to be creative on this one. But I would let her know that you may have plans yourself and a sitter would need to be arranged or she take the child with her. You do not want to be the "babysitter" every time she decides she's going out.
Pray on this before you do it. God always has a way of openning the door so that you can have the conversation. Remain cool, calm and collected and no arguing. State the facts and go from there. Do not allow her to goad you into an argument. Man up, back straight and it's a business negotiation going on. Keep the emotions out of it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
