Spartan I use to get worried sick about my W and her thoughts. I use to really hate when she would go out with friends because at the end of the day they just want to see her happy and will say whatever she wants to hear. I even hated what her counselor would say to her. I was floored by some of the things. I personally left 3 counselors because they all told me to D my wife. So I left.
Try not to snoop at all. It will crush you. As matter of fact when I first moved back that it what started our fallout again. I snooped and found stuff I didn't like.
You have the right attitude. Your W will say things because she is hurting and scared. At the end of the day you just got to keep working on yourself, enjoy your kids, and become a man only a fool would leave. If she then decides to leave, she is a fool. You left no stones unturned. You can't depend on your W or anyone else for happiness. Ever. What if W got hit by a truck tomorrow. Then what.
The roller coaster ride blows. Stay off it and keep doing what you're doing.
Your W switched to a phone call. This is good. My W did phone calls, in office visits, you name it. The idea is to make your W's decision about divorce a tough one. So keep doing the right things.
ALL my w's friends are divorced. They are all men and divorced. It use to drive me nuts. Actually still does a little. But I try to focus on the things I can control. That is me
