So in short my wife has been having a PA for a year and a half now. I spent the last few months coming out of the fog thanks to DB. I had thought the PA was over but found out this week while having a very calm, open talk with her that it's going stronger than ever. Basically she said she doesn't know what she's doing anymore, and if she could afford it she'd move out. She won't get out, wont even leave the bedroom after i asked, so i think its time for more serious action on my part. Right now my plan is to contact OM and his family to inform them to stay away from my children (kids go to school together), get legal separation papers in order, and tell her I'm done being her cuckhold. This all sounds good on paper but I'm terrified. Scared of ruining my chances of making things work, scared of what it'll do to my kids, my finances, everything. We have four kids 12 and under and I just don't know what to tell them either. Any tips on what I've listed would be appreciated, or if there's any pitfalls I need to look out for.
