>>>>>>>>>>>Hey Sunny! I do have to agree w/your therapist that is extremely rude to address a wedding invitation to your wife and guest, especially when you are still married and living under the same roof.<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Thanks Snodderly but how do I address this ???
>>>>>>>>>>If her family didn't want you at the wedding in Florida, why are they now coming to the home and staying there? Is she planning for you to stay in a hotel or what? When did she become your mother and tell you that you have to stay home and watch your son? I realize you love being w/your son, but your wife shouldn't dictate what you should or shouldn't do. I think I would have had to call her on that one.<<<<<<<<<<
No actually they are all staying out our house but the night of the wedding they are all staying at the hotel the wedding is at – they want me to stay home with my son. Her family staying over without me making a big stink is a huge 180 for me I would carry on like a butthead whenever they would stay so it’s something that really hurt her.
>>>>>>>>>>>Why are you looking at new furniture right now? Don't you want to be sure that the two of you are going to be living under the same roof for while? Many times the mlcer wants to go on shopping sprees and then ups and leaves. I don't know about this one, but if you are working two jobs, this little venture would be put on the back burner for a while to see how things go.<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
I agree I just told her we spent so much money already I need to wait a while but I want to say why did we put in the kitchen and looking at furniture if we are splittling up – also not sure what to say to address this ---
>>>>>>>>>I do have to agree w/your therapist...you do not need to be your wife's punching bag, i.e., the abusive behavior. I do think you need to do some 180's and just let her know that enough is enough. Sunny, there comes a time when you do have to take a stand and if money is tight, you shouldn't go along w/her idea of purchasing furniture and I would definitely question her about the check order. As for her family coming to stay in your home...a hotel would be where they would stay after what happened with the Florida wedding. If something isn't working, try something else. The most damage you can do is she move out. Right now, that probably wouldn't be such a bad idea because she's got it made in the shade while you are doing all of the work. She's cake eating. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
I find it funny that when I came here I couldn’t keep my mouth shut now I am afraid to say anything – and I am SCARED OUT OF MY MIND to address her on this stuff. I just don’t know how to approach any of this – she was outside on the phone last night at 11:30 last night – so prolly now there is another man involved to – I am just so sick of this $hit already – thanks for any advice you can lend.
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
