Thanks for the reply Mr Bond. That has been my thought thru this whole thing - total cake eater. He has the best of both worlds - can come play family man whenever he wants and then leave to do whatever he wants - absolutely no responsibility. It drives me nuts.
I don't plan to invite him to do anything - no more family dinners, nothing. It's hard because I feel like it pushes him away more, but the way things have been going he has no reason to make any changes in the situation. Last night I was doing stuff around the house and playing with little one, never contacted him. So I wake up to a message saying he guesses I am mad about something. Uh, no, just living. He reminded me the other day that I am not the center of the universe - well, guess what, neither are you. I think he does have a problem with me being mom first, part of what got us into all this I think, though he would never admit it. On the flip side of that, I do believe it is very important to put your marriage as top priority and teach your children about a good marriage. But not when he is gone - she is my number 1. Runs around acting and posting things as if he is father of the year. Now, he is a good dad, but how many dads do you know see their daughter on Friday morning and don't make it a priority to see them again until Sunday afternoon - and not even because he was 'busy'. Geez.
So I need to work more on my getting a life. Although I will surely get accused of all sorts of things lol. It usually seems like he's just waiting for me to mess up so that he can go file and say it was all my fault. Well - that is not going to happen.
