BeingMe, I hear you and understand what you are saying about him getting a job closer to home now. I think these mlcers are so emotionally stunted that they don't know how to have empathy and compassion for people, especially their spouses or family members when they are ill or going through medical procedures. I had a similiar behavior from my xh. Now, he's jumping to the call of his wife (twinkle twat) and taking her for her chemo and running out for her prescriptions and doing everything for her. I never saw any of that type of behavior in the 25 years he was w/me, in fact he ran the other way as fast as he could. I don't get it, but I'm glad he's being supportive ot her in her time of need.
I also understand where you are coming from about the pub. Maybe he's trying to see what you and your family like about the place and he's trying to "fit in". He doesn't realize that he's not the same person any longer and the dynamics of the relationship have changed drastically. I'm right there w/you...if he brought ow there, I think I would have to say something too...
Hang in there...you've got a lot going on this year and hopefully you'll have your own place very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
