Thanks RLA, Yep it was me that told you that. I was so certain your H was not done. Hard to grasp when it's in our own yard eh? So strange. I have apologized, over and over and over in therapy, out of therapy and even wrote her a letter in May which she rejected. Swallowed a lot of pride in dealing with my shortcomings in M. Part of me says that deep inside she does not ultimately want this but feels it is only route or option. Part of me says she is buying time to get herself organized financially, legally and indepently. I definitely do the lions share of the domestic duties and contribute more financially so part of me feels used too. She says so many contradictory things....or did....that's right we are not talking. I don't like not talking but tension is still too much that both of us still are on eggshells. Neither of us trust each other right now. She definitely has anger and resentment. Still could be OM and she is cake-eating until her timing is right. So bizarre. Still 180ing. Probably comes off as anger, I am not certain but I am not in her face, not clingy, do not pay her any attention....at least overtly.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.