House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[RegretfulLA]

Definitely keep an eye on what she is doing with the finances. My H made the brilliant move of separating our finances right at the beginning, so now he's driving his own ship into the ground and I have nothing to do with it ;-). Now that we're back to working as a team, I will at the very least gently remind him about his unpaid parking tickets instead of ignoring them... boy it's hard to go from detached to back in the game.

My H was acting zen and calm and done around our friends at the kids' school. That was hard to watch. But it was the conversations that we had that let me know there was still a little hope, and I even wrote about it here. I think it was you who told me to read between the lines, that HE was not done. So, you're not talking to W right now, but is there any hope? She cuddled D10 in YOUR bed... why not in HER bed??? She's dragging her feet on everything... if she's so anxious to D you, why isn't she working harder to get rid of you? I'm just saying... she doesn't want the D wholeheartedly.

Look, the last thing I ever expected to happen was what happened to me: my H all of a sudden and seemingly out of the blue decided it was worth one more college try. This went directly against everything he had been saying for 7 months, things which included "there is no way we won't get a D," "You're not worth working on it," "There is no chance of R," "Our marriage is over," etc. And look what happened. When push came to shove, he changed his mind.

Just keep looking for the small signs and do as you told me: read between the lines!! A heartfelt apology to her might go a long way. I forget if you already did that or not.