Even if your decision to make her choose at the time, guided her hand then... this is now.. and she is a grown woman... she is responsible for her own actions.
And you are different person.. and you've been at this awhile. I've seen growth in you.. I haven't seen that much growth in your w's actions over the last 10 months.
NOW, The only influence you have on her.. is continuing to be the best NG ever. The loving kind woman who offered to help coordinate my fundraiser next year. That woman is worth knowing.. that woman is worth loving...
.... and maybe your wife will wake up.. maybe she won't. But you're path is still the same. Set it, walk it, and never look back.....
((( )))
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
Grace, I asked if she was still with OW bc if she is, it will be harder to bring about the positive changes in attitude that come from DBing. This makes things more difficult. So all you can do is be the best you can be and weather this storm...And who knows. Maybe things will turn around. Just don't base your happiness on this result.
Ugh. I feel for you so much. These OP's put such a wrench in getting a clear picture of our sitchs. I know we have had positive changes for ourselves, and I know that we can translate them into our Rs yet, the OP reality makes it harder, in my opinion. And I know the changes we have made are real, and I know they will be with us no matter what.
As j3b always said...its a long term strategy.
love you NG (((((((((((())))))))))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
