You're spewing pain. This needs to stop. It doesn't do your sitch, but more importantly YOU, any good.
She knows she hurt you - she's not dumb. She's just not at a point where she wants to do anything about it... and until she does... it's all moot.
All you can do is keep the road home paved and smooth. That does not mean that you can't close the door whilst you heal.. but expressing your pain through a surface feeling like anger is just adding stumbling blocks. Who needs those?
Should your wife ever decide to look your way - she will have plenty of stumbling blocks to overcome. All the ones she created herself.
I know it's hard but darling.. you need to STFU!
As for the apology - I truly believe you should apologize when it's warranted. Regardless of the outcome. Regardless on if it hurts your DB strategy.
but if and ONLY IF, there are no expectations behind it and I don't know if you are in a state of mind right now to clearly do that.
So what's going on NG??? What's triggering these backslides? Start there and you can move forward.
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M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
