Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

Went to the new MC today. I hope we hit the jackpot this time. He seems like a good fit for us - much more direct and proactive than the last guy. I'd even call him tough, which is what I think we need. He asked direct, challenging questions to both of us. Felt much less one sided, although now that H is in a different frame of mind, that might have had something to do with it. This particular MC was recommended to us because he "has balls."

Even H said, "He's much better than [first MC]." So there you go. H also said, "It would be amazing if I could have a great relationship with the mother of my children." He actually apologized for that sounding selfish. I told him if we could get to that point it would be a win for all of us!

I don't want to push Retrouvaille at the moment. We've just decided to R and just started with this new MC so let's breathe that in for a while, read a few books and see what happens. It's been 7 months of estrangement so I think maybe we ought to start getting used to each other again for a start.

I, at least, am feeling pretty good about things. It is nice not to have to think about everything in terms of "when H leaves and when I'm single." Now we are planning a ski trip, talking about summer vacation. It is nice not to be dealing with all of that tension.