Wait, I really don't understand how that will alleviate her thinking it was a "get in my bed or get out" message. I was wanting to establish a clear boundary and beta comfort without being needy.
The message I intended is: "You can get into bed with me, sleep in the room with the boys, or continue to sleep someplace else. If you choose to sleep at the house I will do the laundry but if you sleep elsewhere then you're responsible for your laundry. Whatever you choose is fine by me, you won't upset or anger me."
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
