Kimmerz, You became a more mature adult during the last year or so because you had to take on everything that your h left in your lap. You moved on and yes, held your head up high and finally set some boundaries into place.
Mlcers expect us to be right where they left us pre-crisis. They don't stop to think that we have feelings too and aren't going to sit on a shelf forever. When they see us begin moving forward and away from them, that's when they become angry and spew and yes, even more controlling and manipulative.
Continue your autopsy...you'll discover even more and when you are done...you'll be happy that you did the work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
