the way I kept this in check was to remember that my W was not living in a field of daisies under a purple sky with unicorns flying overhead through big rainbows. I figured she was in turmoil and pain because that's what Michele says in DR. And guess what, over the weekend my W admitted that the whole time we've been separated she has cried constantly. Your spouse is hurting. She will say things that may not reflect what she's really thinking because she's trying them on for size. She's saying them to a friend while in her mind is thinking "is this what I really believe? Is this what I want?"
Hearing that helps a lot! I know my W has to be hurting too. She's got to be. I am positive she is struggling with at least some of the consequences regarding her decision to leave. Although, she doesn't show it on the outside. Whenever she comes around, she is put together, upbeat and appears very happy with her choices. I guess the WAW has to "act as if" just as much as the LBS does....hmmm. Good to know. Now, if I could only GAL as much as my wife has been doing, I would be in great shape!
