What makes a WAS become cold and distant?

[KarenR]

There isn't one answer for your question. Sometimes it is a way to not have to have to talk about the relationship and sometimes there is another motive. Whatever it is, I know it is very difficult to deal with. If you aren't speaking to a DB coach yet, please consider it. They are experts in helping you figure out what is really going on in your situation and then how to respond to it so that you bring the person closer and not push them any further away. Please call me for further details. Take good care.