Always nothing but good points of view around here! I really appreciate everyones input. I think I am going to follow through and speak with the school counselor. My only apprehension is putting my child in a counseling situation if it not something she really needs. I just have some mixed feelings.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Let me ask you, and you don't need to answer here, just really think about it. Did you call W because you wanted her to help your D, or did you call because you wanted her to know D is miserable? I suspect you were trying to rub W's nose in it.
I ABSOLUTELY wanted my W to know how miserable she was. The fact that she refuses to acknowledge that this separation will effect our daughter absolutely infuriates me. However, I also knew it would be good for our daughter to be supported by her mother, as well as me, during this time. I felt like it was serving double duty.
I am still working hard on detaching. I find it much easier when I have less contact, of course. However, it seems that my phone coach wants me to work on the friendship anlge, so being physically detached is somewhat contrary to that. I am really confused on how to interact and how often to interact with W. So far, I have reached out to her 4 times over the course of about a month and a half to do activities with D and I. She has been receptive 3 out of 4 times, and we have had pleasant interaction. I have told myself that I will not initiate any more activities. She needs to reach out next, I am just not sure she will do so....therefore I feel like I am chasing my own tail on exactly what to do in my situation.
