My wife apparently said, "Nope. I am moving forward and not looking back. If he would have made these changes 5 years ago maybe, but it is too late now. My heart is completely closed off to him".
My W said something very similar to this to my sister. And now she's talking about working on the M. The DB tip really is true, don't believe anything they say and only half of what they do.
And regarding your anger, the way I kept this in check was to remember that my W was not living in a field of daisies under a purple sky with unicorns flying overhead through big rainbows. I figured she was in turmoil and pain because that's what Michele says in DR. And guess what, over the weekend my W admitted that the whole time we've been separated she has cried constantly. Your spouse is hurting. She will say things that may not reflect what she's really thinking because she's trying them on for size. She's saying them to a friend while in her mind is thinking "is this what I really believe? Is this what I want?"
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Tonight she is out on a 2 day "birthday party weekend", staying in a hotel, clubbing, fancy dinner. I on the other hand had to check my bank account before buying groceries. The fact that she shoehorned some of our money away before leaving has me furious.
But how long can she maintain that lifestyle before reality clubs her over the head like a baby seal? Just focus on you. GAL. Detach!
