I can relate to your comments about the house feeling so empty when they're gone. I had been through some lows in my sitch and thought I was past it, but the first evening I spent alone after handing the kids off to W was one of the toughest I went through. It does get better though. Just start planning things for yourself on the days you don't have them. Keep yourself busy, that was the key for me.
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This week my goal is to get up at a normal time and work every day. I need the money but I mostly need to try to move forward. This "treading water" thing I've been doing is not working.
We've talked about that here before, many of us had great difficulties getting anything done at work early in our sitches. It's normal. Just make yourself work. The more you do it the less you'll have to force yourself to.
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I must figure out how to GAL!
Again this is something you have to force yourself to do at first. But it'll get easier and easier until you find yourself doing it because you want to.
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As far as detaching, I havent spoken or text W in 2-3 days. This has been hard because she has shot me a few texts and games in the mean time. Right now I'm going dark until I can figure out handle communication with W. Any suggestions?
Don't ever initiate contact unless you have to due to the kids. When you talk to her, be happy and full of PMA, but brief. Be the first to leave the convo. IE, say something like "I've got to run but it was nice talking to you, goodbye!" Try to send one text or email for her every two. Sometimes reply right away, sometimes wait an hour or more, sometimes don't reply at all. Make her wonder what you're up to. Be a little mysterious.
