I would definitely not say anything about the men's gloves and walking boots you saw at your W's place. You did really well not to. It's none of your business--especially if you're S and you don't want to look as if you're bothered.
I still think it's a good sign that she cries when she sees you. To me, it signals that she has mixed feelings about what's happening. If I were crying that's what it would mean...
Maybe if the EA has gone physical then it's a bit more real and she'll start seeing that it's not the route to everlasting happiness.
Hang in there, rkyfat. You're doing a great job.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012