Side note. The thought of our family breaking up tears me up because of my daughter! Thats why my wife will have a hard time believing I wouldn't take her back.

I come from a culture where marriage is life long, even if you are not happy really. You deal with what you have, and learn to love what have (instead of this culture where you have to HAVE what you love).

Out of my close family, (mom, dad, older brother, sister in law and her entire family) as well as my extended family back home (numbering probably upwards of 300 people) I would be the first person to be divorced. My W knows that and so this is how her POWER becomes hard to overcome.

She knows I think it would be a terrible outcome for my D3.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017