W will do what she wants. Time for ME and D3 !!

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AnotherStander and Leopoldstotch, thank you guys so much for offering your knowledge to me,i certainly do appreciate it.

You both have very valid points although they perhaps contradict each other somewhat. But I have had a lot of contradicting advise on here, so I guess in the end you go with your gut.

I have been thinking about life without my W recently. She left yesterday for two nights (will be back tomorrow) and so I am taking care of D3 on my own.

I got D3 bathed and into bed last night, I got her ready for school this morning, I dropped her off and got my day started for work. So I am starting to feel more calm and more serenity as far as that part goes because I think i can handle it.

By the way, i went back and read both of your initial sitch posts from way back. on AnotherStander's thread, the very first response is from 25yearmlc. That post intrigued me.

I know it doesn't really matter what the diagnosis is for any of our WAS but 25 said that your wife fit more of the mlc than WAS because she was leaving the family not you.

My wife has said from day one that D3 would stay with me in our marital home.

When I mentioned our marital issues to my parents, who I haven't told about OM because if we reconcile they will NEVER respect her again. My parents come from a culture where this should be the end of this marriage. I was raised in a western society and can move past this.

Anyway, i told me mom we are having marriage problems and W wants to get a job and move out. The first thing she asked me was what about D3? I told her that W is saying D3 would stay with me, and that I told W there is no way D3 is moving with her anywhere and she is to stay in the house she was born in.

My mom's reaction was there is no way a woman would leave her kids unless she has lost her mind.

I believe there is what they now call a Quarter life crises that mostly hits women in their early 30s. It is well documented and seems to occur mostly in women who got married at a young age. We got together when W was 17. So perhaps there is something there.

In any case, we need to stop discussing W, and move on to me. so please read the next post.