wierd - the pattern thing. i have to say- that the very very few times h and i have "gotten into it" about this junk- it doesn't really accomplish anything i admit- but i do feel "heard" and better some how to have had communications of any kind - even bad- better than nothin. maybe like kids - want attention and if they can't get good attention- they'll take bad - anything to be center of attention. OH GOD - SAYING THAT OUT LOUD T OYOU- could this be what is going on with my H? something as simple as this? (well, still very complicated- but simple too?) .
is it possible your h is having something like that going on? maybe he's soooooo needy to be heard and feel like "he matters" - I DON'T Know a darn thing about depression - whether something like this could trigger or prolong it- but anyway- just a thought.
as a mere human- i've been ranting my stupid head off for a week now- i am sooooooooo DONE WITH ALL THIS mother crap and my sisters and teh pain in the neck of interaction and feeling responsible- i could see myself jujping off some edge here because i'm so damn done. i see it- doesn't mean i can stop it or cure it- i just rant and rant and make myself sick (along with everyone else i'm pretty sure) oity
i bet you feel like that too- maybe we're catching what they've got? all this psycho stuff drives me nuts as well- trying to understand til you crack into a million peices yourself.
good for you to notice (maybe he needed to tell his family and mother? something wierd there?) but also good for you to keep it in perspective. my h is nicer after he's awful too- i guess every single human being - ncie, not, sane, insane - needs to feel heard. it's all i can figure-
i wonder if it plays into his "getting better" in the end? once when my sister had a truly psychotic breakdown (and schizophrenia) shelived with my mom for a year- totally trashed mom the whole time- (her husband left her & she really loved that guy) but point is , she ranted like crazy about mymother for a year in that save environment of mom's house- and got functioning again. don'w know?
