So I have purposely declined her phone calls while I am at work whether I am truly busy or not because I can't be at her beck and call. I'm establishing a little alpha boundaries and being less available to her. This morning, I was finishing up my coffee and she texts me:

8:49am Her: Hey do you know where my heels are?? The black ones not the black flip flop ones or my black boots? I need them for liberty and u cleaned so I didn't see them

Note: "liberty" is her new job with Liberty Taxes and she is afraid to go in the basement or attic; knew this fear from day one and lots of her stuff is in the attic and washer/dryer is in basement.

9am Me: Brought down the boxes of shoes from the attic. You and *baby* are welcome to join me back in our bedroom, boys back in their room, or you can move things. If you'll be staying here at home with me put your and the kids dirty clothes in the blue basket so that I can get it washed for my family.

Her: Thanks for the boxes. Where is all this coming from now??


By the time she texted back I was in the shower and then getting to work. Since I'm at work I'm not having any personal/relationship conversations with her. At most, when I get home (since, no matter how much I hope she'll be there she most likely won't be) I'll text back with, "Just been doing a lot of thinking." I'm doing better myself since this really hasn't affected my mood, I'm staying upbeat and confident.

Is that a decent, vague enough, response? Establish a little beta comfort without getting needy?

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln