House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[FloydMan]

Thanks RLA,

Your perspective is important to me as there are differences in our sitches yet so many similarities.
I don't think I can pursue other women right now. There are a couple that have expressed interest in me. I had let them know clearly of my sitch. My head just isn't there. Though I am flattered by the attention and ego stroked a bit.
My W is strikingly beautiful but I have lost some attraction with the attitude and behaviours. I suppose this is normal and where she is at too. I gotta accept there are dudes all over her. Not sure if there in one "special" one anymore. Could be but I stopped dwelling on that.
Curious, why you say my W is not 100% done? We are officially separated but still in same house which has been for sale since end of Nov.
She has stated clearly she is done....a position she has held since May. I have not brought up R since beginning of Nov. We don't speak and if we do speak it is about finances and she is nasty about it and not contributing her fair share. She is still overspending. She has started legal process in Oct and got very litigious though not much done since Nov on that front. She has not moved forward to reduce the price of the house to help it sell quicker....it is overpriced and she set the $. She has told the kids in Aug which was very tough for her to do and still reminds them when they ask or get upset that this is the course we are taking.she told her parents at end of Aug which for her was even tougher than telling the kids. She says they are finally accepting it but something tells me that is not true. W made it clear in Aug it was okay for me to date or do what I needed to do to "get over it". Every week I do the shopping and make sure I get her favourite treat just for her (Miss Vickie's salt and vinegar chips) and she never gives them back and always takes them. Yet, she will reject my coffee offering and never pour me one yet do my laundry when we agreed in Aug for her not to do it. I do it too and the kids when i can. i definitely do the lions share of domestic things and responsibilities...i am not exaggerating on this. I catch her sometimes looking at me engaging with the kids especially at dinner. she usually finishes first and then leaves the table without saying anything and hibernates in her room to read, text, catch up on work, do legal/financial stuff for separation. She does not tell us where she is going even if she is with the kids....I have no right to know where she is taking the kids apparently yet she gets curious about where I am with or without the kids and asks them. I have been guilty of that too I must say. There are no hellos, goodbyes, good mornings or good nights anymore. I stopped initiating that in Nov as part of 180. She is so cold and mean. To me she is done. Why do you think maybe not?