Wow, THANK YOU for all the kind comments, I really appreciate it I came back to post another update and was so surprised to see the thread is on page 2 already Your comments really touched me, I am so thankful to have your support and it also really makes me feel great to hear that I have helped you too
I wasn't expecting to post an update this quick, but I went to W's house to do the RetroV exercise with her (sorry I can't be more specific than that, but it's part of what they ask us not to disclose). When I mentioned above that she had told me about her guilt for having been a "liar" throughout our marriage I guess I didn't realize what a watershed moment that was for her. It came out last night that when she disclosed that to me she felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of her, she feels great relief over it. I took her hand, looked her in the eyes and told her "I want you to know that I forgive you." She teared up and gave me a big, long hug. I had told her that I forgave her when she said it before, but she was crying and we were hugging and I wasn't sure if she heard it or remembered it, so I wanted to make sure she knew it and knew that I meant it.
I'm trying not to have any expectations, but something big seems to be going on with W internally.
I came back to post another update and was so surprised to see the thread is on page 2 already 