Please help!

[AngieG]

My previous threads have been in infidelity and new comers (with no advice) and I need help!

After a brief affair on my part (3weeks), my H has left. It’s a unique situation as he travels a lot for work and we are in the process of building a new house. He has left all his belongings with me, but will not live with me. I don't know where he is living when he is home, but I do know he is online dating.

I have moved so that he doesn't come to my house where OM had been (once), I am a open book, he can see all my phone calls, texts, emails, banking info, EVERYTHING. I am VERY remorseful and want my H back more than anything! It was a huge mistake on my part!!!

I have detached as much as possible. I only email him about the house building if necessary. H will only send short, snippy emails back and if he emails, his are about separation. I have done everything he has asked me to about the separation, even when my heart is screaming not too. (MY BIG 180!) I have always controlled the finances in our M, because of his travels. I want to tell him to do the work yourself, but I help and am kind (per DB Coach).

I am trying to GAL, but finances are tight right now, the weather is cold and I live in a rural area. I have been doing projects around my current residence to stay busy. H is due back to US on 1/23. H has asked D to put his keys in his truck so he doesn’t have to deal with me. I will not be home when he arrives (another 180) and have asked Ds to meet him wherever he wants, just not at our home. I don’t want him going thru my stuff or cleaning me out when I am not there. He does not have a key, as we just moved.

I feel like I’m drowning, can catch a quick breath and back to drowning…I need advice! I love my husband…