So what do I do? If I pressure her now without finishing my 180s it's a done deal. Everything I know says it's not time for that yet.

At some point I will need to gain some respect, by respectfully asking her to follow through with what she promised. Moving out and doing her own thing.

Then go dark as much as possible with a D3.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017