My stbx never calls the girls. Never. He stopped calling when he came back to NY last January. Over the summer he mentioned to me that he didn't call because he thought it was too upsetting for the girls. I nodded affirmative and said ahuh in my best alnon/db way.
For the best couple of weeks as I have come to further accept our d I knew I needed to talk to him about his no calling policy. (FYI I call the girls every night they are at his place).
I sent him and email this morning "hey, I think the girls would really love talking to you on the phone. Should we set up a time, morning or evening work for us"
H does not reply but he did call this evening while I was at an alanon meeting. My mother said d4 had a mini conversation and had fun talking. D4 told me about it when I got home. I hope he decides to keep calling it made her so happy.
He ends the call by saying to my mom "bklyn sent me an emailing saying to call so I did"
Very strange on so many levels. So not the guy I married.
Do these people hit a bottom? I feel like stbx will just spend his life treading an never hitting the bottom? I feel sorry for my girls that their dad will be emotionally unavailable. I also recognize that his relationship with OW must be half a relationship. Won't a normal OW encourage him to call his kids.
Anyway I feel good. Glad I made it to a alanon meeting, I need to figure out a way to make time for more. 3 a week is what I need to feel good
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
