Tori, she did not mean for me to go get in a relationship outside of my marriage. She did say we can learn the communication skills necessary if we are willing. However like bug and ruby said we have to dig deep and look within us to change. I am convinced people usually choose the path of least resistance or the perceived path of least resistance. It is not easy to look at myself and realize I have done/acted in a way to hurt my wife. This is something I will have to live with for the rest of my life. I for the most part have forgiven myself, now it is time to change the parts of me that I do not like.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
