I don't think it says you need to try other Rs but rather that we who walked this path didn't really know what we wanted or how to ask for it, didn't learn how to weather failing Rs.

I truly believe this does happen, but it doesn't mean it can't be overcome if, and that's a big if, both people want to work on it.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss