The anger for my wife is growing. I really want to lash out today and here is why:
Our D has been showing signs of stress from the separation. There has been some acting out, pottie accidents, crying and not knowing the reason, that sort of thing. Last night she asked me who she should love more, mommy or daddy. I expressed that both mommy and daddy love her very much and she can love us too. She doesnt have to choose and she doesn't have to love anyone more or less. About 2 minutes later she is crying, saying she doesn't know why. It broke my heart. This morning, she wakes up crying again so I decide that I am going to get my wife involved in this and call her. So far she hasn't been too concerned that this will really effect D. So, and this is the part that makes me really mad, she talks to daughter and calms her down. She validates her feelings and expresses her love. That part is fine. However, she goes on to tell D that daddy can get her dressed and bring her to mommies apartment so she could cuddle her for a little while. Now, to me that means she was still in bed. It was already 10am, but I am sure she is resting after her hard weekend of partying. But, she expects me to get daughter dressed and bring her there to snuggle her mommy in bed? Like a short snuggle in mommies new apartment will make everything better? I found it extremely selfish that she didn't offer to get her lazy butt out of bed and be invloved directly in her daughters well being. Shortly after the phone call, D no longer wanted to go to mommies. I text W that and her reply was that I could bring her there anytime. Perhaps I am not being fair, but the selfishness is beginning to wear really thin with me. I expressed to W that I was really considering speaking with the school counselor about daughters possible needs. W didn't even reply one way or the other. She literally doesn't think this will effect D much in the long run. I am just not sure how to handle this. I mean, D isn't completely out of control, but she is definitely showing signs of stress. Is that just going to be part of it no matter how it is handled? It is breaking my heart to think D will be emotionally damaged from this Bu11 Sh1t!!!
