Thank you Snodderly. I do still wonder why she does things, but not as much as before.
UPDATE FROM THE PREVIOUS POST
XW texted S20 and wanted him to ask if I would call her. He asked and I did.
She told me that she has been diagnosed with Restrictive Respiratory Disease and she needed the info for a timeframe.
She says that she coughs a lot and can't catch her breath. (She blamed her coughing on me when she was in her anger stages. Hmmm she's still coughing.)
She told me that it impacts her life a lot and told me sometimes that it is so bad that she pees her pants or vomits. (She always seems to give more information than is needed for some reason.)
There was no shouting or fighting.
She told me thank you atleast three times.
She then says "I hear you have a couple of pet rats."
I told her I did and told her that I was training them and I wrote a book about them. A lot of small talk about them.
She thanked me again and told me that she'll bring S18 home later today and said she'd talk again soon.
I said: "Alright. Take care. Tell S18 I said hi, I love you (OOOPS!) and see you later."
"Alright. Thanks. Bye."
I know it was a mistake. It just came out.
Before the call, S22 and S20 told me not to call her because we would just end up in an argument. We did not.
After the call:
S22 "You didn't argue."
Me: "Nope."
S22: "Nice."
I cried. Damnit.
Does it ever end?
Ever?
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13