Wasn't much action going on there but my background is there and it had 9 pages. Thought I'd start a new thread.
Well to try and summarize, Been together 11 years, married for 7. Started business in Jan 2012, haunted house. Planning started in Jan, construction start in August. March we sold the property and soon after 67 Camaro SS show car to fund it all. March I asked her before going to bank if she was completely happy with me and our marriage and she said "absolutely 100%"
June she started having slight chest pains, doc told her it was anxiety, too much work stress. Gave her Celexa, 20mg. By End of August, volunteers were showing up and she took interest in a 19 yo boy. (she's 28) We had an argument about her spending too much time with them and not enough with family, I blurted out Divorce (as a stupid habit of mine, not a terribly common thing for me to do tho) and she said "not a bad idea" Since then, she had completely changed character. Started drinking a bit, tried weed, locked daughter in a room to go party etc. Completely different person. (this is a few months past her starting Celexa)
Divorce will be final Feb 5th. People on another forum told me to give up and sign papers, 50/50 everything. So I did. I regret it. DB started for a month or so now.
DB'ing wasn't strong at first. Now, though probly too late, I am doing better at it. We've moved from the haunt which failed. Lost everything. No money, no cars. She's driving the hearse and I'm driving the SUV which still owe $2,000 on. She moved in with her brother and family and I moved in with 2 bachelor friends.
So here I am. Feeling better. I see my wife / stbxw maybe once a week. To exhange Jo. She no longer calls or txts about anything other than Jo, except for once or twice talking about me having a job or not yet etc. That's it. A few times during exchange convo's she wanted to get together for a movie (she works at a theater) and a movie or two here at my house.
I woke up this morning, deciding to try and move forward. I've gotten in contact with a few older friends and I now have another possible supporting friend. Which makes just 2 so far, but one isn't so "supportive", she's just too negative. I have thought seriously about getting this job I pretty much have bagged, just waiting on background check and MVR (motor vehicle report) etc to start working. I may try to do another haunted house this year. If I can get 2,000 people, $10 a head that should be about $15,000 profit, if done correctly. This could be a very good start to a possible career. (I want a solid, GREAT show, not just a run of the mill attraction)
I'm setting goals, small and large. Still losing weight. Now 35lbs lost. Still working out and getting more frequently. I'm just gonna try and continue to GAL and hope that when the date comes (court) I can handle it well. I'm not sure if I want to go anymore or not. I feel that she's confused and going through a phase, or maybe permanant, but either way, I do NOT like who she is at this point in time. It may be induced by her Celexa, which I've done extensive reading / research on, and I believe it has at least a large part into her behavior and she is tapering off the drug. So I'll try to march forward until she comes to me.
I'll try to update with progress etc.
M: 36/W: 28 T 11yrs / M 7yrs /1x 3yo D Sept: W Cheated w/ teen, BDrop. W Beast. Hated me. Oct: 18 (M license)W Asked for D Oct: 31 (Anniverary)W Paid Lawyer Nov1st: Both moved.
