I also realized at yoga today that I am not to blame for all this. I have taken the blame for everything even this weekend in hopes he would come back. This blame is eating alive and it needs to stop.
I think most of us can relate. You have to forgive yourself, and it takes a while to get there. Then you have to forgive your spouse. This doesn't mean actually telling them you forgive them (but it can), it just means letting go of the blame. When you find yourself in that position, it will bring you great inner peace and the ability to move on with or without your spouse.
Your spouse also needs to forgive themselves and forgive you, but that's their journey and nothing you can do or say will help them along that path. Some people never do forgive, and they never let go of the bitterness either.
