GALing has been VERY hard for me. I have to work and also some days I have to look after D3 in the evening while W goes to see OM.
GAL= go to the park and fly a kite. Go for ice cream. Walk the dog. Take an old friend out to lunch. Play a board game. Ride a bike. Pick up a new hobby. Paint. Dance. Lift weights. Run. Write a journal. Go for a manicure. Get your hair styled differently. Change your wardrobe. Get some new cologne. Go skydiving. Fly an R/C plane. Shoot rockets. Make your own list of GAL activities. Have your kid? Fine, take her along on your GAL activities. Take pictures of the two of you enjoying yourselves and post them on Facebook or text them to your W. Every single time I hear someone say "I don't have time to GAL" it just tells me they don't have a clue what GAL means.
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I need to find a GAL that stays true to who I am. I am not a stay out late type of person, and don't really enjoy drinking that much
Why in the world do so many people think GAL means go out drinking and partying? That is about the LAST thing it means!
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I have always wanted to volunteer for something. Just not sure what.
I am quite a low energy person, and really so is my wife. I think it is the life style we slowly aged together into. We don't get enough exercise, and so sleep is not as satisfying etc. plus I was not keeping up with vitamins.
Then start. Before you say "That's easy for you to say" rest assured, I've lived it. Before BD I was lazy, low energy, and spent evenings vegging. After BD I lost 10 pounds of fat and spent the next 7 months piling on 20 pounds of muscle. What's the key? Quit talking and start doing. That's the key principal of DB'ing no matter whether it's your body's health or your marriage's health!
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if she saw me with more energy and getting things done, it would seem very attractive to her also.
Don't do it for her. Do it for you. My W told me over the weekend that my GAL activities impressed her because I showed her I was going to live life whether she was part of it or not, and she really respected that.
