Sexless marriage. H Left. Now retrouvaille in 3wks

[flowers4me]

I have been more of a lurker on these boards for several years, but I do want to tell you to not give up. My H moved out Oct 2011 after years of MLC behavior and the roller coaster ride from He#@. We went to Retrouvaille Feb 2012. He participated but acted like it was stupid and refused to go to the follow-up classes. He continued to spew and say he had been miserable for 25 years and only stayed because he didn't want to leave the kids, yada yada. I GAL and worked on me. I had been taking the blame for everything and believing his lies. I realized I had my issues to work on but I was not responsible for all the issues. I finally got a backbone and set my boundaries and stuck to them. I continued to pray for him and work on me. He filed for divorce in June 2012 and our divorce was final in Oct. We had very little contact from March until Dec when he called out of the blue and wanted to get together to talk. He talked for 3 hours and apologized for all the grief he had caused the family and admitted that most of the spewing was lies. He was depressed and was lashing out at me for all his problems. He said he wanted to try to be friends for the kids sake, but he wouldn't want to work on rebuilding the marriage. I agreed to be "friends" and make things more comfortable for the kids, but not change my boundaries. We made it thru the holidays and no contact again until last week. He came over and said he had been going back to church and he felt God was revealing how wrong he was and he wants to see if we can try to rebuild the relationship and get remarried. We are going to take things very slow. I want to go back and take the follow up classes but we haven't gotten that far in the discussions yet. Don't give up until you feel right about moving on. Only you can know what you should do. Trust yourself.