Welcome, and so sorry you are here! I've only been here 2 months, so I bet people with more experience will chime in.
Have you read Divorce busters or Divorce rememdy? I would suggest that first and foremost.
It is really an amazing way to put the focus on yourself and getting yourself healthy, as well as healthy ways to deal with your spouse.
Michelle says it isn't over, til it's over. My husband, who is having an affair and just ended it 5 days ago, said that when he first told me he wanted a divorce 2 months ago, he knew it was absolutely over. Now he wants our marriage to work. We are still a loooooonnngg way from really even being at the starting line until he really stops all contact with OW, but because of the changes he has seen in me, he is starting to fall back in love with me and has moved back into our bedroom.
One thing I do know, is that I will be fine either way. I will also know that I did everything I could to save my marriage. The 180's have been invaluable to me.
Good luck.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
