Reading a lot of Louisa Hays and doing affirmations. "I am willing to let go of my need to feel rejected in my marriage."
i'm not understanding this. do you feel that you want to feel rejected? i read your post about grandfather, father- what the heck is it??? is it that kids mirror their parents? could it be as simple as that - they think it's "what people do".
my h's father & mother both cheated on each other and took off for prettier people with lots and lots of money. in ft.lauderdald, it's allllll about money and beauty.
what the heck he was doing with me for 35 years if he wanted beauty & money i don't know. what he wants now, i do not know -
i was between two sisters - one 1.5 yr older and one 10 months younger- i'd say i don't ever remember being anything to anyone in the family- my parents liked other kids better maybe - BUT IT NEVER MATTERED OR i never noticed because i had this great younger sister who was my constant companion in life- and i didn't need them really. oh well huh?
maybe i picked a "hard" "undemonstrative" unyeilding h because that is my mother. she tells me daily how much like him she is- SCCCAAAAARY. MAYBE i want to be rejected too? hence my interest in your comment.