Does this sound like a MLC or am I just in a SSM?

[adinva]

Thanks mum2three! I'll post how she's doing over in my thread; she seems a little bit better every day but not coming home from the hospital anytime soon yet.

I learned about my feelings in the MC my H didn't attend, which is now my IC, and assigned reading beginning with The Dance of Anger. I thought at first that had nothing to do with me because I wasn't angry, and then it sank in. Also Pia Mellody's CD set on Boundaries, and Sven Wahlroos on Family Communication. Those two taught ways of seeing how you could lovingly say what you want or need in a way other than stifling or getting snappy or feeling like you're whining about minor stuff. But Dance of Anger was the best for learning how husbands and wives fall into patterns that feed each other and become amplified until it's hard to see how they can possibly be fixed.