When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[hotwheelsaust]

That sounds harsh, and it is harsh.

But so did I, Bruce, and so did a lot of people here who haven't faced it yet.

We thought being married was forever whether we made that a good thing or a bad thing, and we're outraged that the response we got when it became a bad thing wasn't what we wanted it to be.

You didn't know before, that being negligent and a jerk might give her enough reason to leave you. But you know it now, and so you shouldn't waste anymore time defending your right to have been negligent and a jerk, unless that is what you hope to continue being.

I was certainly with the understanding of the marriage vows as being for better and for worse, but quickly learnt as Adinva says it doesn't cover me for being a negligent jerk to my wife.