When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[Big Bruce]

I read and re-read your posts,
They're absolut gold for me.

So, a little bit of background : I wanted the baby because I am a family man at heart. W was not feeling well in her head back in France, young, immature, away from her family, not her language, not her culture, she got depressed mildly. We got the baby, and she dove into it, become so over protective she wouldn't anyone carry him, and barely touch him.

I was kinda glad my W was so commited to taking care of him in a way. I thought it was maternal love, when it was unbalanced obsession.
To the point of rejecting the husband and going back ten years in time, to the security of the home country, at mommy and dad's house, and now trying to sever the marriage knot.

My playing too much sports? In reality I went twice a week in the evening for two hours. That was my negligence.
Her other reproaches? I sincerly try to accuse myself, and search fault on me, but all who I talk to, say that ok I wasn't perfect but it is really minor. I try to convince myself I was the vilain, but darn, if that was being a bad husband, then I don't know anymore.
Maybe her spiel about negligence is not what really bothers her, that's only trying to justify herself.

Anyway, I have two questions :
- What is S supposed to write in the Valentine's card? "I love you mommy"?
- When I pick or drop S up, I get to see W for 5 seconds to 5 minutes (depends). If I act talkative, smiley and nice, it might be considered as pursuing, right? If I am silent and cold, she'll think I'm mad at her, revengeful or something. So, how do I appear?

Bonsoir,
Bruce.