Antonia, I think about the things I have learned through this life. This is not to be adverserial. Life is lived from the inside out. "True love" is a projection we put on life and sooner or later we discover that it is a prejection and it pops. when it pops it's another opportunity to grow and mature and become a big person living in a grown up body. This is a hard concept sometimes.
If we understand DB it allows us the opportunity to look inward at ourselves and see if there are other projections which are fallacies as well and can work on them. If you will, grow up.
Living internally allows us to develop a peace, which intern allows us to weather trajegies(death, MLC etc)and handle them in way that we control our emotions and not get lost in the process. An MLC'er gets totally lost in the process, thereby all the carnage that is left behind.
Db'ing and GAL allow us to grow up and learn. If our ex-partner/partner is willing to do the work then there is a chance.
I too, fight the fantasy occassionally, we all do as human beings. After all who doesn't want a fairy tale.
Kimmerz, I gave a couple endings or ongoing updates on relationships since Antonia thought very few people get togehter later on. If I implied that they are happy I should not have. I don't know them well enough to assess that. If I see them again I will certainly ask.
My EXW is an exact opposite replica as well. What I'm peaceful about is that Im out of that storm. I remember the good times partly because I'm a positive person and I know the true story, not the one created by her.
I have moved on with my life. It is a totally different life then I had planned but thats what makes it interesting. In the book "peaceful warrior" Soc talks about three things that are universal. Paradox - Life is a study in opposites, humor - it helps you through many situations and Change - nothing is constant for very long.
