Wow. I am so sorry AM. I heard that too last summer ... The planning of exit for 5 years. I was PO'd when I heard this myself. This is where I felt so used. I mean, planning it for 5 years? First of all nothing seems planned...we are a mess. W is a mess with no reall set plan. flying by the seat of her pants. nothing organized and going on a whim. though more is done and organized. Also I don't really believe the 5 years because W had contradicted that statement several times....all through the begging etc. she was planning more future life stuff than exit stuff pre-May. i think it is a cop-out statement but perhaps mostly the thoughts crossed their minds that long ago. Used because it seems we were working to their timetable. It is selfish. What do you do? Same as me I guess and keep DBing and GAL. Detach more. I have also heard that some of what people learn at RV can hit them sometime later. Are you doing the follow up sessions of the program?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
