Still walking the path to my own happiness

[Wendylon]

OMG, Regretful!!

This is where it gets really challenging. I'm so glad you're going back to your bed.

I can't wait to hear more from you. I'll need to check in every day to keep up.

You're getting great advice.

[JuneReN]

Wow, Regretful. Again we see the dynamic where one is ready to say done and things start to turn.

I am glad to see things going forward for you . I think that this will be the hardest part!

[mamabird]

Thanks guys. I agree with everything you've said - this is going to be the hardest part, and to think of it as a new R.

I can't say I'm blissfully happy (yet), but very happy to be on this path and to have a fighting chance. Probably need to re-read DR in light of our new situation.

I started a new thread in honor of my new sitch. Follow me there... Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[dorightman]

Congrats RFL! I hope it works out for you guys.

I'am at a worse place right now. W isn't interested in R at all. She is "totally done" and wants me to move out and see mediator ASAP, or she will go legal she said. I told her I'm not intimidated by her threat of D anymore.

Still not sure if I want to be the one to move out or not.

She said that in order for her to even think of R, we would have to be D and years would have to go by for her to release her anger and resentment! This makes me feel pretty hopeless. I don't think I could wait that long. I would have to go on with my life, so that would probably be too late...

[FloydMan]

Tough yes, but opportunity knocks. Wish I were in yours or even your H's shoes right now. I am so happy for you. Take this opportunity and run with it. Have fun with it rather than think of it as a daunting task. Enjoy each other to the fullest. Remember too, disagreements will happen, they do in the best of marriages just don't believe that it is the end or a huge setback. It is how you disagree and resolve it. Good section in DR on this too.