hey hi - just reading around here- stumbled on your comment:
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The MLC person is finally taking control of their lives. To others, it comes across as being selfish and repudiating friends, family and loved ones. To the MLC person this is done to protect themselves and save them
i swear - today i feel like this and i'm the lbs. between mlc & family junk- i feel if i don't do something here to stop the emotional drain of my life * & people in it- i'll just be an empty skin.
maybe this is what my h feels. he's been successful and done anything he's wanted all his life=-. things have been easy for him ($$ wise) maybe not so much with parents & family.
i've loved him without stinting- he has always been the guy mortally in charge of his emotions, etc.- real staunch control of self person. maybe he is "saving himself" - an interesting insight. are you having a mlc - ? or do you think you are?
based on your interpretation - maybe i'm heading there. i surely hope not. i do feel i need to somehow get a grip on relationship issues and take charge better of how othrs treat me & relate to me. i'm DONE HERE. doormat no more.
i am not afraid of being dead - i'm afraid of getting dead. dad died at home slowly of lung cancer. i fear it- no doubt of that.
maybe my h feels he's lost hmself and life is passing himby- i am not willing to be the total blame for everything in the universe wrong with his life & him. i still can't believe such a rigidly in control guy like him has gone down this road. he had success on several fronts (law & tennis) a star at both - he had unqualified love & companionship- what he feels he's missing i cannot guess - except maybe youth & vigor.
