Should I ask her to move out?

[FloydMan]

She has issues. Why did her first M break up, do you know? There is a pattern. Yes, she should move out and yes, all the kids should know as they are old enough. If those kids are close, the one may have already or loll tell them at some point. Now, they are not your kids and so W definitely needs to be involved. You wife is not being pushed away, she pulled herself out. She is being your friend to cake eat for sure. Be diplomatic, but firm on your assertion that you should not be together if she is with OM and that is what she wants.