You will both need new tools for rebuilding your marriage into something it may not have ever been before, or not for some time. We went to Retrovaille a few months into piecing, when we learned that my MIL had terminal cancer. She was the impetus b/c it was definitely a curve ball in terms of timing, and it was a HUGE event for my h, of course. But at first he was super irritable and that was NOT okay for me, within a short amount of time. Not b/c I was impatient so much as I saw it as us backsliding so I knew we needed some loving tools for managing that. And it really helped.
We've also done personal workshops over the years that I highly recommend for our own "stuff" and he certainly has some.
Can you think about that? And if you choose to get some tools, offer to get them with your h, OR WITHOUT...and if it's without h or if he wants to get his on his own--that's fine. If So, then You model your new ways of coping and resolving conflict, as a way of sharing them w/him.
Does that make sense to you?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
