Thank you on the weight loss. I really don't look that big, my doctor says he thinks my normal weight would be around 300 lbs. Weird I know, but if I were to drop another 60 pounds I would probably be around the 20% body fat range which is in the normal to slightly obese range for guys. Less than 20% and I am in the normal range. I am going for less than 10% (6 pack abs) body fat.
As for the finances, we started out not having much money and compounded that situation with bad financial choices in using credit cards. Now we are both making moves to clear up all of the bad debt which is, I think, partially the reason she doesn't want me to move in with her. I think she puts a majority of the blame for those problems on me because I handled the finances for most of the time; although we generally made decisions together I was the one who was actually writing the checks. I think she's testing me to see if I can get my life straight financially. That's fine, and I will because I know what needs to be done in that area.
As for moving and the job, my employer is willing to transfer me and while I have two opportunities for promotion here in Washington I will have an opportunity for promotion there in Colorado and I really don't like the weather here. I do love Colorado and all of the sunshine it offers. I also have some great friends there while I don't have much in the friend department here in Washington. I think overall me moving to Colorado, even if not for her, is a good decision.
Also you make a good point about the living together. I wasn't sure of it, so why should I expect her to be too. I was blinded by the fact that we were moving forward with our relationship and I felt that it was finally back on track that I thought that's what I wanted. I think living apart will be a good thing for both of us.
In the end I will not stop with these changes, but I still hope that we can find each other as a married couple by the time it's all said and done, even though she says she is firmly convinced that there is nothing there anymore. Maybe she just needs a break to put her energy into something else to recharge that part of herself?