subguy, it's tough, I know the feeling. My H never contacts me, when I need to contact him, he's friendly and helpful but emotionally removed.

I've stayed this long because I wan't done. I would ask myself what would I be doing differently if I said, 'OK, done.'

My answer was always, 'not much.' I would have been grieving, improving on myself, creating my new life, working, volunteering, enjoying my sons and my friends.

I was not ready for a new R, so I just keep on keeping on and that will change, when it changes.

When you get those feelings that you want to change things, what is driving that?

And I'm not saying you should or shouldn't stay, only you know that answer.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss