Hi Antonia, I hear what you are saying and I also struggled to let go. As time passes it all gets easier! And to me it looks as though you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, good for you girl! I did really struggle, but I finally got used to going to places and events without her. The worst events are my family weddings and stag do’s. (And I think to myself how long will their marriages last?) And of course thinking about my own former marriage.
So far to date my ex W has never joined us in our kids events like graduation and birthday parties etc
I never went to her Dad’s funeral, perhaps because the family turned me away from his doorstep 4 weeks before he died (cancer).
Now the bit on where I stand. Regarding a possible reconciliation with Liz, but it’s highly unlikely to ever happen.
I do remember my God telling me to let her go!
The reasons and things against it ever happening are:
Even is she was at her very best, that would not be a good enough place to start out at.
She as got so much work to do on herself, and there’s an awful lot of sh1t to sort out!
I don’t find her attractive anymore either sexually/physically or her personality. (She looks awful).
She is to immature, naive etc.
And not to mention the trust issues!!!!!
Your quote: ‘beliefs" in my head. One was monogamy for life’
My reply: There’s a saying over here called ‘Thought’
‘Did you here about thought? – Well he thought he farted but he sh1t himself.’
Love
Delboy
Your quote: ‘But like I said, if someone fell into my lap, I'd consider it.’
